Hey there. I’ve been thinking a lot about how relationships shift when we start to work on ourselves. Not just surface-level changes but when we really begin to untangle what’s going on inside. When we reconnect with who we actually are and begin that healing process, a lot of things start to move. And one of the biggest shifts comes in the people we surround ourselves with.
Sometimes it’s subtle. People just fade out. Maybe they were coworkers, classmates, or part of a social circle that made sense at the time. Life changes. People get new jobs. Move away. Start families. That kind of distance feels natural. It just happens.
But then there are the changes that come because we are changing. That’s a different kind of distance. It can feel personal. It can feel heavy. And if we’re not careful, we start to assign blame. We try to protect ourselves by labeling those people. Toxic. Disloyal. Fake. But it’s not always like that.
Sometimes someone simply isn’t meant to come with you into your next chapter. That doesn’t mean they were a bad person. It just means they were part of a particular season of your life. And that season is over. It’s not always about conflict or betrayal. It’s about alignment. About where you are going and who fits into that path.
You don’t have to burn bridges to move forward. Just because someone isn’t in your life anymore doesn’t erase the value they had when they were. Some people got you through things you never thought you’d survive. That impact is real. And it matters.
Letting go doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. It can be quiet. Respectful. Clear. And most importantly, it can be done without hate in your heart.
If you’re navigating changes in your relationships, know that you’re not alone. It’s okay to release people with love. It’s okay to grow. And it’s okay to outgrow people too.
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