Hey there. Comparison is one of those things that feels automatic. It’s so easy to scroll social media, look at someone else’s progress, and feel like we’re not doing enough. But here’s the truth. You’re not running their race. You’re running yours. And the second you internalize that, everything starts to change.
I’ve had to make this choice myself, over and over. I’ve had to remind myself that just because someone is further along than me in an area I care about, that doesn’t mean I’m behind. It means I’m on my own path. When I see someone succeeding, I try not to fall into the trap of envy or excuses. I don’t say, “Well, if I had their time or their resources…” Instead, I say, “What can I learn from this?” or “Am I actually doing what I need to do?”
There are definitely people online who only show the highlights. But there are also people doing the work. The ones who share curated parts of their life, not to flex, but to be honest. Sometimes we assume everyone’s faking it, but a lot of people are legit. And instead of feeling discouraged by that, we can use it as inspiration. Not to copy them. Not to compare our Chapter 2 to their Chapter 10. But to get back into our own process and adjust where needed.
I’ve realized that falling into the comparison trap is often a sign that I’m not giving myself enough grace. Or that I’m not truly connected with my goals. When I’m clear on my process, and I’m curious about how I can grow, I’m less likely to feel triggered by what other people are doing.
It helps to pay attention to your triggers. Notice what makes you feel less-than. Then, start shifting your response. Give yourself kindness instead of criticism. Observation instead of judgment. You can still improve, but you don’t have to tear yourself down to do it.
There’s no finish line here. Your process, your growth, your journey… it’s going to take time. You’re allowed to take breaks. You can pause, reassess, and come back whenever you’re ready. What matters is that you remember your race is yours. And you don’t have to compare it to anyone else’s to make it count.
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