Hey there. For most of my life, I believed the answer to self-doubt was action. I thought if I just did enough, accomplished enough, stayed productive enough, I’d start to believe in myself. That mindset kept me in a loop where I was constantly performing. I wasn’t building confidence. I was surviving by trying to earn it.
Eventually I realized the problem wasn’t the lack of action. It was the belief that I had to prove my worth in the first place. The turning point came when I decided to trust myself before I took the next step. That choice changed everything.
It’s such a simple concept. Decide to believe in yourself first. Then take action. But we’re rarely taught to approach it that way. Most of the self-help advice out there pushes us to keep doing more in hopes that confidence will show up on the other side. The problem with that is it makes your belief in yourself conditional. It’s tied to your productivity. So when you stop doing, the doubt creeps right back in.
When you start with belief, the actions become a reminder of who you already are. They’re no longer proof you’re trying to earn. They reinforce a decision you’ve already made. That shift in thinking helped me break the cycle I was stuck in. I stopped chasing confidence and started embodying it.
This is the heart of the inside/out approach I talk about often. It’s about changing the way you think and feel first, then allowing your actions to reflect that belief. It might feel too simple. But if you’ve been stuck in the self-development loop for years and still don’t feel any different, maybe it’s time to try something new.
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